Girls Vent It!

In putting this blog together i talked to some great girls around campus and found out there were many things the girls had to tell the guys but did’nt have a forum to 

BYU Students

Students Marie Sykes and Darren Jaeckel chat at BYU. Photo by Stuart Johnson, Deseret News

 

 do that. 

This is where “Girls Vent It” comes in. Guys are welcome to respond. 

Lets get the ball rolling. Speak your mind: Now or Never.

22 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Chanelle
    Sep 23, 2010 @ 09:53:51

    Nice Idea.

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    • Chanelle
      Sep 23, 2010 @ 09:58:37

      There are indeed some very cute guys here on campus and even if i dont have any to call mine i think the guys dont take the gospel as serious as the girls do.

      I would’nt normaly walk up to a guy to start a conversation, even if i think he’s as cute as Ashton Kutcher but if i know he takes the gospel seriously then i just might do it.

      Without this quality, i dont think any guy is worth my time.

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      • Kristin
        Oct 18, 2010 @ 10:44:49

        I’ve got to agree with Chanelle on this one…I have met a lot of great guys (really good looking too:) but if they happen to make a few comments that seems to imply they don’t consider the gospel a significant part of their lives (which has happened a number of times here) I can’t help but automatically become disinterested in them from a dating standpoint.

        I am not looking for “Peter Priesthood”, and they do not need to be these perfect guys by any means but it’s a big turnoff when I feel like I can’t have a gospel centered conversation with a man.

    • jenjen
      Dec 09, 2010 @ 21:25:47

      i agree

      Reply

  2. Mimi
    Oct 18, 2010 @ 10:56:54

    Again, it’s hard to strike up a conversation with a guy no matter how cute he is; all I think of is, “oh no, he probably doesn’t like me because he’s giving me a really scary look”. This game is frightening!
    So guys, SMILE, say, HELLO!!!

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  3. fedeline
    Oct 18, 2010 @ 10:58:47

    The dating game here at byui is slowly changing. I remember my first semester here that was winter of 08 guys would ask girls out now its all about texting them to hangout. TEXTING REALLYYYYY? whats up with that fellas..guys need to step up lol…

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  4. Deborah
    Oct 18, 2010 @ 12:32:16

    Guys here at BYU-I don’t really know what dating is about! They just want to go hang out even if they have feelings for the person they want to hang with! One of the things most of them do here is that, they pretend to have interest in the girls then a week or two later they turn out to be total strangers! COME ON NOW!!! Thy need to grow up!

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  5. Juliet
    Oct 18, 2010 @ 13:37:38

    Yup yup, there is way too much “hanging out” going on. Just ask a girl out for goodness sake. Dating is part of the college life, hanging out is used to frivolously… Chill, and ask her out. None of that “Hey maybe we should hang out sometime.” Something more fitting like “You busy on Friday night? Lets go to the ice caves, pick you up at 5?” Yeah… much better.

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    • myidate
      Dec 09, 2010 @ 23:08:44

      Hahahaha, I like this. U seem to be the very forward type. I wish there were more girls like this (and single) here.

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  6. Katy
    Oct 21, 2010 @ 20:43:47

    I feel like dating is difficult on both sides. There is nothing comfortable about asking someone with the risk of rejection. Nor is it easy to schedule x amount of time to get ready for every date. 😉

    However, I think that there are tips on both sides that can make dating a little easier here at BYU-I.

    Men:

    1. If you have never really talked to the girl in an actual conversation, start one before asking her out. Get an idea of what she likes so you can get some fun date ideas for the both of you. Give her a sense of what you are like, at least as much as you can in a one-time conversation.

    2. Dating doesn’t have to be expensive. Based on previous conversation (like in number 1), pick something that would be free or inexpensive. Examples are: going for a walk/drive, racketball, fingerpainting, dancing, service, or exploring a historical building.

    3. If you are feeling extremely nervous, make the first date a group date. However, despite what type of date you go on; make sure she feels like you are interested in her and not just the date/group activities.

    4. Take initiative. For most women (meaning 80-95%), there is just something extremely endearing about a man who take the time and initative to take us out.
    P.S. Texting a girl for/about the date is not a good idea. Avoid it at all costs!

    5. Don’t assume all girls are alike. Just because girl #1 was actively seeking marriage, does not mean that all the girls you want to ask out will be like that. Just because one girl loves to play video games for an hour with you, does not mean the others will. In other words, take the time to get to know each girl. Listen to her, and pay attention! One can learn a lot just by listening to verbal and non-verbal cues.

    Now ladies, I think there are some things that we can do to make this process a little easier for all as well.

    1. Unless there is some legitmate reason for not going with him (prior engagement or extreme creepiness), never say no to a first date. You never know who you come across until you take the time to get to know them. Plus, if the man has enough courage; there is something to be said for him.

    2. Take time to get ready for your date. There is nothing more unattractive than a girl who does not present herself well in looks, actions, and word. You want the man to keep coming back. This is one way to do it. This does not mean to go overboard in your make-up, hair, or clothes. Do what is comfortable for you, but invest a little time.

    3. If the date is simple, relish in the moment. Take the opportunity to get to know your date. Listen to him. Make sure you make him feel like he is your focus because on a date, he should be.
    P.S. Don’t go overboard. It will not bode well.

    4. Have high expectations for your date. Put yourself in a position for him to be a gentleman.

    5. Be grateful for the effort put into the date. Make sure to express your gratitude at the end of the date.

    Tip #6 for all:
    Just have fun!
    Things have a way of working out just the way they need to. We could all do with a little less worrying in life.

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    • myidate
      Oct 21, 2010 @ 22:27:25

      Awesome. Thanks.

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    • myidate
      Dec 09, 2010 @ 23:10:11

      U’re definately one girl who knows her onions. I’m impressed. This a wonderful post.

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  7. Kaprena Worth
    Dec 02, 2010 @ 14:10:18

    Ok here’s my two cents:
    FACT: Lots of people are up here looking (or just keeping options open) for marraige…. which is great. Every happily married relative in my immediate family have met at a church school.. but really?? CHILL OUT!! It seems to me like after the FIRST date the guys (and girls) around here expect kissing-and-then-some privilledges…

    LADIES: Just cause he took you out doesn’t mean he’s your property or that he wants to marry you! Why can’t we date a TON of people, have fun, and get a good idea of what we want?? “thats what high school was for”… Umm NO. You dont HAVE to have a significant other every semester…. You should still be able to date lots of people without feeling tied to one person just because you’ve gone on ONE DATE.

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    • myidate
      Dec 09, 2010 @ 23:10:57

      I like this.

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    • KT
      Dec 10, 2010 @ 15:40:07

      I agree. People should be allowed to date a lot of different people without judgment or censorship. Dating a bunch of different people definitely allows you to figure out what it is you want in a relationship or marriage. Take your time! Do it right.

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  8. Abbee Lloyd
    Dec 09, 2010 @ 22:52:25

    It’s true, girls coming here seem to be obsessed with marriage-even if they are fresh out of highschool. Guys seem to seize this opportunity and date as much as they want, because in the girls despotism they lose their ability to resist falling in love. That’s according to the guys though; not all girls are here lacking the desire to have a career. I am certainly not a girl who came for marriage. I came to earn a degree and make a life for myself aside from marriage. Don’t get me wrong- marriage is grand, but marriage is important because of the commitment part, we don’t want you to have your fun with us and then forget us the next day. We’re worth more than that, and girls you need to stop circulating this ludicrous idea that you aren’t worth more than the guy whose arm you’re latched onto. You’re all amazing and your eternal companion should mirror how spectacular you are.

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    • myidate
      Dec 09, 2010 @ 23:06:01

      I am very impressed with U. I dont think i have met many girls who think like U do. If U do already have a boyfriend tell him i said he’s very lucky, very, very lucky.

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    • Rachael
      Dec 10, 2010 @ 09:59:14

      Amen

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    • Juliet
      Dec 14, 2010 @ 01:14:56

      Alrighty my friends… I have a story for you. Well sorta.
      Once upon a time… not really. I have found that many a time I, or people close to me, search for a relationship to fill some kind of void, some need in their life that is missing. I’m not going to lie, I am a victim of this vicious cycle. Once I realized what I was doing I asked myself something… Why am I trying to impress all of these guys around me, when really the only men I should be aspiring to is My Father in Heaven and My Savior and Redeemer? Please don’t brush this off and deem it as cheesy or cliche. In the end that is all that will matter, what your Savior and Heavenly Father think of you.. not that really tall, handsome man that just walked by. I am still trying to wrap my head around this thought, but I think once I do… I will be a much happier person. Don’t dwell on the thoughts of others, it’s none of your business.

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  9. Rachael
    Dec 10, 2010 @ 09:56:23

    A lot of young people go into relationships because they want to be happy but to me love is about finding happiness on your own and when you find that special man or woman, you try to share that happiness with them. In other words, don’t go into a relationship for selfish reasons, do it because you sincerely want to make the other person happy. Also beware of making assumptions about what type of person your date is. Forget about yourself and go on dates with a clear mind and a desire to really get to know that person, and a few months later you may just find yourself in the temple with that person.

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  10. PDA-Hater
    Dec 10, 2010 @ 16:14:46

    I think P.D.A. SUCKS! I am fine with two people being in love and all, but I really don’t want to see them display it. Especially in the Crossroads. When I am eating my delicious burrito. Viewing it makes me want to puke my $6 burrito back up onto my styrofoam plate.
    ALSO–P.D.A. does not need to occur in the library. I’m pretty sure they’re not getting much studying done if they’re too busy displaying their love in an intimately awkward way.
    Just to clarify: I’m all for true love and all, I just don’t want to see it displayed outside of the movie screen. Unless they’re displaying it in a Disney-approved way.

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